Stop Trying to Fit In: Finding Your People in University
By Sulaiman Rashidat Mopelola You see them from a distance. Three, four, five, maybe six girls walking together, laughing like they have known each other forever. And for a moment, you wish you were one of them. Wanting friendship is natural, but constantly trying to earn a place in an already-established group can make you forget that genuine friendships are supposed to feel mutual. You see them walking together across campus. They laugh at jokes only they seem to understand, share food, borrow things from one another, and probably have a group chat filled with conversations you will never see. You watch them and think, I want that. Why do people desperately want to belong to a particular group? Probably because they do not want to be lonely in school. There are times when you finish a long, tiring lecture and are completely exhausted. You are feeling moody and do not want to relate to anyone, not even your roommates. But there is just that one person or group of people who know...